In today's world and in today's time, the idea of being dependant on anything or anyone is viewed as unhealthy and weakening. Especially in the western countries where a young child is brought up to expect that one day she/he will have to move out and get away from the house and people she grew up with and find her own feet. We are encouraged to go to university and begin our own lives without our family. But who began this culture, this idea that has held us and influenced us for so long now?
Is it really what we want? Do parents really want to grow old with none of their children near by to take care of them?
In the Philippines I know that when a woman marries, her husband will move into her home and there they will all live and raise their own children under the eyes and hands of their parents and grandparents. When someone gets old or ill, they will all take care of each other and even sell their farms and houses to pay for the medical bills for them! Surely that should be what family means- that all will begin together and end together. If one soars, so does the other, it is a base, a unit.
But here in Britain it is certainly not like this any more, though I wish with all my heart that it could be! Even though we would like to get out from our families sometimes and find ourselves, would we have these mind-sets if we were raised in the Philippines?
And sometimes I come across other big families like me own and people will say, 'Why are you still living at home? You're old enough now to leave aren't you?'
Surely the 'time' for leaving is nothing to do with that person's character and own pace in life. Each individual develops in her own time, why should we think that by the time we are eighteen we are adults? Why should we even think that by the time we have finished school we should be starting our career?
I don't want you to think that I am promoting laziness or uselessness, only family and there where you were raised, you should be at home. We are viewed as 'unsuccessful' in life if we are dependant. So instead the world encourages us to think of only ourselves. And then we feel sucessful when we complete something in our own strength.
The world is so fast-paced sometimes it scares me. But there is one thing that I will always be dependant on and that 'thing' is the living God. Even Christians can sometimes hardly be aware that they are actually not giving their everything to God, that they are holding back in some way too. It may be in finances or health, they believe it is all their own doing, they must be determined not to fail in that one area.
We are afraid to give everything entirely to God because we afraid of losing. But if only we could put this new mind-set through us and within us and floating around us all the time, something like this : God delights in providing for me. He is my father and my God, he will and is more than able to provide for me no matter what I am going through or all that is to come. And he wants me to enjoy what he gives us now, not to wait until tomorrow!
I always think that if God has given you something, than you shouldn't hold back- live it and enjoy it now! Start breathing, find out what God has burried within you. Do you know, it is so exciting, because I know God has given already so many gifts to me, but I still know that there is more to come, I can feel them there tickling my heart. They will come for you too, but only in his time, when we are ready for it. So if God has given you the gift, use it.
In the words of the wonderful Joyce Meyer- 'Compliment God by believing he is good and by expecting him to meet your needs according to the promises in his Word.
How wonderful is that? That we can actually compliment our living God? It is one thing to accept something that God has done for you, but it is completely another thing to expect him to keep doing good things!
Be dependant on God, you can't do it alone, do it better- with God!
And don't forget that he formed the mountains and scattered the stars in the sky. His dreams will take you beyond anything you'll ever dream on your own!